My first placement has come and gone. He was an amazing kid who was also the hardest child I have ever met in my life. He has a lot of trauma.....a lot!! I got him straight from residential, not knowing anything about what I was taking on. I was so naive and had no idea what questions to ask.
This little guy was admitted for his aggressive behavior and I learned all about that my first weekend when I got to experience two of his tantrums for myself that "only" lasted three hours each time. He is very violent and hits, kicks, bites, scratches, pinches, and head butts during these tantrums. It was so hard to deal with and it was so heartbreaking to deal with.
This little boy has a diagnosis of RAD and ODD. We got to experience both, numerous times. He was supposed to be with me for two weeks but ended up staying for two and a half weeks and then he was admitted again and will be going back to residential once they find him a bed. Poor little munchkin is having such a hard time with controlling his outbursts. I pray he is able to get the help he needs to get better.
The home he was in has decided to disrupt the placement of his brothers as well and now his brothers have been separated and the youngest brother is sleeping upstairs in his crib, in the same room his brother was sleeping in just a few nights ago. My friend is also a foster parent and she is going to take the other brother so they will get to spend lots of time together aside from daycare (we are going to keep them in the same one so they get to see each other during the week).
I hope and pray we are able to help this baby boy get past his hurt and pain that he has experienced in his short two years of life.
Next time I know what to ask and will not be so naive.